Rebuild Trust. Restore Intimacy. Reignite Your Marriage.
Faith-based coaching for Christian couples navigating porn addiction, sexual betrayal, and emotional disconnection — led by coaches who've lived it
Does This Feel Familiar?
You love each other — but you feel like strangers…
Trust was shattered, and nothing has felt the same since…
Every conversation either blows up or goes completely silent…
You've tried harder. More date nights. More promises. More counseling.
And yet here you are — still stuck, still hurting, still wondering if this is just how it's going to be? You want to heal but you just don't know if healing is actually even possible anymore.
Truth is: Most marriages that ended, didn't have to.
They just didn't find the right help in time.
Please know—you are not hopeless— You are not alone and your marriage is not too far gone.
Why Red Hot Marriage Works When Other Things Haven't
Most couples don't lack effort. They lack a framework.
More date nights don't heal betrayal trauma. More promises don't break addiction cycles. More "trying" doesn't rebuild what secrecy destroyed.
Red Hot Marriage is built around a clear framework, H.O.T. — Honest. Open. Transparent. Conversations…
Because here's the truth: intimacy cannot survive where secrecy lives. And most approaches never go deep enough to deal with that.
We don't give you vague advice and call it coaching. We give you a structure, walk through it with you week by week, and stay in it until the marriage you thought was out of reach becomes real.
We will never tell you it's hopeless
We've sat with couples sleeping in separate rooms, communicating only through attorneys, who had already filed.
Some of those marriages are now thriving — and helping other couples heal.
As long as you are willing to do the work, we will not give up on your marriage.
We have seen God rebuild the most broken marriages and establish lasting family legacies. He can do it again.
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Erik is passionate about helping men become men of character and integrity. As a pastor, he has been a mentor to hundreds of men and has helped men find freedom from addiction and negative self worth. Erik has a way to speak into the lives of men, with compassion but a clear call to action and accountability. Collaboration and curiosity drives his approach to mentoring/coaching men. Erik’s holds a bachelor degree in Business Management/Logistics; & SYMBIS Pre-Marital Certification. Additionally, he is trained in Pastoral Care, Porn/Sexual Addiction, Full Disclosure, and Partner & Relational Trauma Recovery.
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Diana is the friend everyone wishes they had. She is compassionate and empathetic with the women she mentors and helps people get un-stuck from their trauma cycle. As a Pastor, Diana has helped hundreds of people receive spiritual & emotional support. She is especially passionate about working with women who have walked through intimate partner sexual betrayal and women who are needing direction in their life. She believes in keeping things simple, smart, and very human. Every appointment starts with an empathetic listener and ends with a challenge for healing and personal growth. Diana holds a Bachelor degree in Psychology/Sociology; SYMBIS Pre-Marital Certification; Biblical Studies Certification; Specialized training in Pastoral Care, Porn/Sexual Addiction, Full Disclosure and Partner & Relational Trauma Recovery.
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Erik and Diana see clients both individually and work with couples who are wanting to build stronger Christian marriages, develop deeper intimate connection, need better communication skills, & men & women who are seeking to recover from porn addiction/sexual betrayal. Additionally, they enjoy working with families navigating complicated family dynamics such as LGBTQ+ family members.
They also offer premarital coaching using the SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) assessment — because what you do before you say "I do" matters more than most couples realize. SYMBIS helps you and your person go deeper than the surface stuff: what makes each other tick, where you naturally clash, and how to talk about the things most couples avoid until it's too late — money, conflict, intimacy, expectations, family baggage. All of it. This isn't a checklist to get through before the wedding. It's the foundation your marriage is going to be built on.
Meet Your Coaches
Every path to healing is different. Here are the ways we walk with you.
Our Services
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Individual coaching is available for men and women, 18 years and older. Additionally, Erik and Diana work individually with husbands or wives who need focused clarity, accountability, and structured support in a season of personal crisis or growth. Whether you're breaking free from secrecy, navigating betrayal trauma, or rebuilding emotional strength, this is a safe space to confront what's real and move forward with intention.
This isn't passive conversation. It's guided transformation rooted in honesty, integrity, and faith-based structure. Sessions are held weekly via video call and include homework, accountability check-ins, and a personalized roadmap developed in your first session.
You don't need your spouse to participate to begin. Many of our most powerful breakthroughs start with one committed person.
Starting at $125 / session · Packages available
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Your marriage deserves more than a rehearsal dinner.
Look, we know premarital counseling doesn't exactly sound like a great time. But hear us out — because what you do before you say "I do" matters more than most couples realize.
We use the SYMBIS (Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts) assessment because it actually works. It helps you and your person go deeper than the surface stuff — you'll discover what makes each other tick, where you naturally clash, and how to talk about the things most couples avoid until it's too late. Money. Conflict. Intimacy. Expectations. Family baggage. All of it.
This isn't a checklist to get through before the wedding. It's the foundation your marriage is going to be built on.
You're already investing everything into this relationship. Invest a little time now to make sure you're starting strong — and staying that way.
$35 for SYMBIS assessment / $135 per session (typically 6-8 sessions)
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Marriage Coaching is for couples needing short term support to rebuild trust and restore connection after betrayal, addiction, emotional distance, or repeated conflict. We guide you step-by-step through structured restoration so healing isn’t left to chance.
Marriage Mentoring is for couples wanting a deeper relational, long-term support system to help their marriage thrive in every season.
We believe you don’t have to keep living like roommates. With clarity, courage, and consistency, your marriage can become emotionally safe and deeply connected again.
Starting at $175 / session · Couples packages available
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A structured, faith-based group for men committed to breaking free from pornography and sexual addiction. This isn't a support group where you just share your struggles — it's a program with a clear framework, specific steps, and real accountability.
Groups meet weekly via video and are led by Erik for the men and Diana for the Women. Members are expected to engage fully, show up consistently, and support one another with honesty. The group is closed and private — what's shared in the group stays in the group.
Most men who join the recovery group say the same thing afterward: they didn't know how much they needed other men who understood.
Monthly enrollment · Limited spots available
Secrecy destroys intimacy. Recovery rebuilds it — one honest step at a time.
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Thank you for considering partnering with Red Hot Marriage Ministry! 100% of every dollar you give helps bring hope and healing to couples in crisis who are navigating betrayal, addiction, and emotional turmoil. Your support allows us to expand resources, provide recovery tools, and provide coaching for marriages in need.
Together, we can help families rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and experience redemption.
Real People. Real Marriages. Real Change.
We protect names. We don't hide results.
“Erik and Diana’s impact on our marriage was incredible. Through their mentorship and godly counsel, they helped us navigate one of the most painful seasons we’ve faced. Because of them, our marriage is now marked by deeper communication, honesty, and a greater understanding of each other’s flaws.”
— Former Client“Erik and Diana’s impact on our marriage was incredible. We were part of the counseling team—not because we were struggling, but because we had questions. What we experienced went far beyond answers. Through their mentorship and godly counsel, our marriage was strengthened in a powerful way. My husband and I grew closer, and we gained tools that not only deepened our own communication, but also helped us better support and guide other couples.
— Former ClientFrequently Asked Questions About Christian Marriage Coaching
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Yes — and honestly, some of our most significant results come from one committed spouse doing the work. When one person changes how they show up in a marriage, the entire dynamic shifts. Your spouse doesn't have to participate for you to begin healing and growing. Many spouses choose to join later once they see the change happening.
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We are coaches, not licensed therapists. Coaching and therapy are different — therapy often focuses on processing the past, while coaching is forward-focused and action-oriented. We work well alongside therapists and often recommend clients work with both. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, we will always refer you to the appropriate professional support.
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Our coaching is rooted in our Christian faith and we make no apology for that. The H.O.T. framework, our values, and our approach are all informed by biblical principles. That said, we work with couples who are at all different points in their faith journey. What we ask is that you respect the foundation we work from — you don't have to share it to benefit from it.
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There's no single answer — it depends on where you are starting and what you are working toward. Most clients commit to a minimum of 3 months to see meaningful, lasting change. Some continue for a year or more as they move from crisis to growth. We will give you an honest assessment in your first session of what we think your timeline looks like.
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We work with people at every stage — including those who are still in the middle of active addiction. In fact, waiting until you feel "ready" often means waiting forever. We can help you build the structure and accountability that makes getting free possible. You don't need to have it together to begin — that's what we're here for.